recently did a 7 episode story titled “Wives vs Side-chicks” on Joy FM: Uncle Elbo White

 recently did a 7 episode story titled “Wives vs Side-chicks” on Joy FM: Uncle Elbo White I recently did a 7 episode story titled “Wives vs ...

 recently did a 7 episode story titled “Wives vs Side-chicks” on Joy FM: Uncle Elbo White

I recently did a 7 episode story titled “Wives vs Side-chicks” on Joy FM. The story was about my getting a Professor friend to answer the question “why is sex with a side chic more enjoyable?”.

In answering, Prof shared his story about how his wife, Elsie caught him in an almost compromising situation and eventually got into a nearly fatal accident.

I enjoyed writing and presenting the series and I want to thank the listeners, for making time to follow the series.

A listener sent me a question after the series. She asked “how did Prof. and Elsie work things out? How did they heal their relationship?”

I believe that a couple can work through any and everything as long as they both want to save the relationship. 

When I meet a couple that has been married for a long time and still have a great relationship, I ask, “What is your story. What have you been through and how have you overcome?”

I have been blessed to see and be close to beautiful marriages but in all cases, I find that there was a time when that marriage seemed to be doomed and then something happened and the couple through their pain and regret, resolve to work for a better marriage and together, they managed to do it.

That is what I call re-marriage. In creative writing, we are taught that there is no great writing, only great re-writing. In the same way, I say that there is no great marriage, only great re-marriage. In a sense this was such event for Prof and Elsie in the story. 

How did they heal their relationship?

• Both were committed to save the relationship. Every relationship can be saved but there should be one element present and it is the commitment of both parties to save the relationship.

• The offending party has to be prepared to pay the price make things better and become better. For Prof, he had to decline a huge work promotion to make time to work on the relationship. 

• Take full responsibility for the situation and your part in in. Prof apologized and bore fruits that befitted repentance.

• The offended has to learn to become a forgiving person. And once both of them took responsibility for allowing what had happened to make them better, their relationship became stronger and better.

Marriage is not easy because it strips each of us of our self-illusions and makes us face ourselves just as God sees us. But if we are humble enough to surrender to marriage, then after stripping us of the fig leaves we have used to cover ourselves, marriage would then cloth us properly and fully with a new nature and a better personality, one that does not need any self-illusions; one that is authentic and genuine. And that is the real blessings of marriage.

New play coming up on November 27th and 28th; December 4th and 5th at the National theatre at 4pm and 8pm each day. 

#blessedweekend